Since becoming a Mom back in 2015, I’ve learned a few things, I want to share not only my makeup looks and hairstyles but also my journey as a Millennial Mom and the ways I’ve grown from the ups as well as the downs.
I think it’s normal to want to give your all to your new baby. Even now with baby number 3 sitting on my chest and my laptop on my lap, I have been mindful, remembering it’s important to make time for myself and to focus on me. I’m not going to lie, it has been hard. Then add in attempting to breastfeed, I feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day.
Focusing on the things I need to do vs the things I want to do. It can be frustrating. I wanted to share some realistic tips on how you can take care of you.
Use planner/digital journal
Number one, start a Journal. For me, I know I’ve said a thousand times that I’m going to do my makeup and I haven’t yet, mostly because I haven’t made the time for it. Most times, if I write something down, it becomes real, so I have started to write down my realistic expectations. Heavy on the realistic part, because I can write down a list of things but if there aren’t enough hours on the day, it won’t happen. SO I suggest starting a journal or a planner, hard copy or digital.
Be Unapologetic
Number two, Don’t feel guilty. Be unapologetic about the things you deserve. I think it’s important to keep the Woman alive, not just the Mom. Mom is struggling and that’s okay but the Woman that is you deserves to have her time, either alone or just in the midst of life.
Accept Help
Number three, accept help when it comes. It’s been hard for me to accept help with my new baby, it was also hard to accept help for the first two but this time, I’ve been mindful and I have been intentional with the way I think and the way I speak about myself. I deserve help. At first it was hard for me to even let her go to my Husband for a few hours. That need to MOTHER is real. I have to remember he knows what he is doing and I already know I can trust him. If he has her even for a few minutes, it allows me to collect my thoughts in peace. It allows me to get a quick shower in. Even when my head is telling me to be quick so that I can get her back, it’s reassuring to know that he has her and it’s okay for me to take a break. Their world won’t end if I take an extra few minutes in the shower.
So, all in all remember to make tiny adjustments to ensure YOU are taken care of. I am still working on it myself. Today as I write this blog I have my journal and I plan to also use Notion to get my life all the way together. I refuse to allow Postpartum Depression and Anxiety win this time around. I think if I use a hard copy as well as a digital version, at least for now, then I’ll be prepared and more organized. I feel more prepared to tackle Motherhood when my cup is full as a Woman.
Let me know how you deal with the baby blues or postpartum depression. Have you found anything that works for you? Have you gone through this more than one time or is this the first time? Let’s talk, leave me a comment down below. You can also bring the discussion to my IG page by clicking here.
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